tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-58210903306233135232024-03-13T23:13:07.224-05:00Nobody's HomeRambling musings and poems about love and life by a woman ... otherwise known as things "Nobody" thinks about.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-70127098183329877932009-04-16T00:51:00.004-05:002009-04-16T00:58:48.966-05:00New Blog<span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">I moved in with Pat over a year ago and I've finally started writing again. I missed it. </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">Since my life has changed so much and I'm no longer "nobody", my new blog reflects those changes in the name. The blog is </span><a href="http://simpli-country.blogspot.com/"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">"simpli-country", </span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">a play on the word simplicity, although country life is anything BUT simple. I've found that out this past year. It's a lot of very hard work, which is why I don't post as much as I would like ... that and the fact that Pat & I share a computer.</span>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-87022292589783074022007-12-28T00:04:00.001-06:002007-12-28T00:04:46.729-06:00My Montage<div><embed src="http://www.onetruemedia.com/share_view_player?p=497ea2b23fb2c3729856e1" quality="high" scale="noscale" width="408" height="382" wmode="window" allowFullScreen="true" name="FLVPlayer" salign="LT" flashvars="&p=497ea2b23fb2c3729856e1&skin_id=701&host=http://www.onetruemedia.com" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" pluginspage="http://www.macromedia.com/go/getflashplayer"></embed><div style="margin:0px;font:12px/13px verdana,arial,sans-serif;line-height:20px;padding-bottom:15px;width:408px;text-align:center;"><a href="http://www.onetruemedia.com/share_player_link?p=497ea2b23fb2c3729856e1&skin_id=701&source=emplay" target="_blank"><img src="http://www.onetruemedia.com/share_player_link_image/497ea2b23fb2c3729856e1/701.gif" style="border:0px;" width="408" /></a><br/><a href="http://www.onetruemedia.com/landing?&utm_source=emplay&utm_medium=txt4" target="_blank" style="text-decoration:none;">Make an on-line slideshow at <span style="text-decoration:underline;">www.OneTrueMedia.com</span></a></div></div>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-66444100178601615672007-11-12T20:14:00.000-06:002007-11-12T20:15:37.554-06:00Keeper of the Stars<center><object width="425" height="355"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/7_hp_RTTFKQ&rel=1"></param><param name="wmode" value="transparent"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/7_hp_RTTFKQ&rel=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="355"></embed></object></center>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-44910141558444363312007-11-12T20:01:00.000-06:002007-11-12T20:11:45.760-06:00I'm the happiest woman in the world!Two weeks of emailing and phoning, then four weekends together ... that is all it took ... actually, I think it took us both less time than that to realize we were made for each other. It's hard for me to believe it's only been such a short time ... I feel like we've known each other for so much longer. I don't know how I got so lucky that we found each other.<br /><br />We didn't even have our first date until the weekend before last (our fourth together), lol. He took me to the local hang-out for hamburgers and a game of pool. I still think he let me win, lol. Of course, while we were there, he had to show off his prowess at darts, he he he. That wonderful man sure knows how to make me smile ... and laugh.<br /><br />Last week, my darlin' P, surprised me here in Illinois and asked me to marry him. Today I am wearing his ring ... a ring that symbolizes our love and our dreams for the future. He has made me the happiest woman in the world. I don't know who or what brought us together, but I will forever be thanking the "Keeper of the Stars" for bringing this wonderful man into my life.<br /><br />We spent this last weekend, our fifth weekend together, having a wonderful time with a couple that are his best friends. The laughter flowed like fine wine ... to the point I was in tears from the laughter.<br /><br />We also planted tulips for the Spring ... 100 bulbs in a mixture of pink and red. He asked if I would ever plant that many bulbs again and I said I'd plant more next year, lol. They are going to be beautiful when they come up.<br /><br />His home in Missouri is already beautiful, but we are going to surround his home with even more beauty. The beauty of our love will shine for everyone to see for ... "<em>If I had a flower for every time I thought of you, I could walk in my garden forever</em>." (Alfred Lord Tennyson)Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-56205781312424110962007-10-31T23:03:00.000-05:002007-11-01T18:14:17.183-05:00Kites and DreamsFor months I was mourning my loss ... posting about it and crying about it and trying to figure out where it went so wrong ... from the first or did it just die a death that was destined from the start. Whatever it was, it is now in my past. A couple of months ago, I gave up and I let go like a child letting go of a kite and now look to the future.<br /><br />I won't regret my time with him, but will be grateful for the things I learned ... how to give my heart and soul to another and how much love I am capable of bestowing on a man.<br /><br />A little over a month ago my life changed and any tears that I have these days are tears of joy. I met the most marvelous man. My darlin' P is one of the most extraordinary men that I've ever met ... romantic, straight-forward, funny, loving ... the list could go on and on. I never knew there was a man out there like him. How did I get so lucky that we found each other?<br /><br />I haven't posted about it, because it was so new. I was holding the delicious feelings inside and letting them blossom and grow. I've been letting them seep into my heart and mind until they were formed enough where I could open up and pour them out into the world. Each day my feelings have grown ... with each phone call, video luncheon, webvideo and visit to his place in the country.<br /><br />Those walls I was so busy rebuilding ... he went right through them with his innate honesty, musical soul and romantic heart ... like a knight on a quest. He has courted me with music and laughter ... and roses and pampering. No man has ever pampered me before, nor has any man ever gotten past my defenses so quickly to discover the heart that I keep hidden. If someone had asked me a month ago if it were possible to win my heart so quickly, I would have said it was an impossible feat. Yet my darlin' P has somehow accomplished what others have tried and never quite achieved.<br /><br />The past three weekends have been experiences to delight all my senses. Riding behind him on his motorcycle ... taking wildlife pictures in his deer stand ... soaking in his hot tub ... being cooked for and served steaks and grilled onions ... sitting together on his back porch swing listening to the sounds of the breeze rustling the leaves on the trees ... meeting his friends and hearing stories about his life ... listening to music and singing to each other or dancing around the room ... sitting knee to knee, holding hands while we poured out our feelings while looking in each other's eyes ... and laughter, so much laughter and joy mixed with a bit of pain and a few tears ... my weekends have been filled with tastes, sights, sounds and smells to fill my memory folder with delicious memories, each one more precious than the one before.<br /><br />Our connection continues to grow with each time together. It amazes me how in a few weeks he already knows and undertands me better than any other man has ever understood me before. He knows when he wants me to do something, all he has to do is make sure I say that "I promise" and it will be done. He knows that I am a very elemental person ... with an affinity to earth, wind, fire and water ... an affinity he cultivates and nurtures, as it feeds a part of himself. We have given each other back somethings we had both lost ... hopes and dreams.<br /><br />We have given each other a future filled with those hopes and dreams. The work (actually a pleasure) has begun. Now we can work together to make plans for the future and dreams come true and to keep our love alive ... to forge a partnership that will last for the rest of our lives. Our building blocks will be love, honesty, humor, music, sharing and caring. Those blocks should build our dreams until they reach the sky.<br /><br />It's time to once again break out a new kite ... and this one we can hang onto ... together.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-5176043897799863922007-10-13T17:47:00.000-05:002007-11-01T18:37:14.868-05:00How did it turn around so fast?I have been sitting here re-reading some of my posts and wondering how the hell my life has changed so much in a matter of a few weeks ... or even one week for that matter. All that I believed when I wrote those posts to this site are being blown out of the water. My life has turned in a completely new direction in a matter of DAYS! How did it happen?<br /><br />I mentioned that my friends talked me into signing up with a couple of online dating sites. Most of the guys I heard from were scammers, or only wanting one thing (guess what). Then I heard from a guy that lives in Missouri. "P" lost his wife to cancer and, after I told him I was a breast cancer survivor, I never expected to hear from him again. Instead, I've heard from him every day.<br /><br />I was upfront with him and told him that I was missing my former boyfriend and trying to get on with my life. I told him that I was just looking for a friend, not a boyfriend. He told me that he'd be glad to be my friend.<br /><br />It started out with emails and a few phone calls. In the past week, it has moved on to video chat at lunch and in the evenings when he is off work (he works nights, four days a week) ... one night for 12 hours. We share a love of nature and have been sharing the photos we've taken of wildlife. We also share a love of music.<br /><br />I've never met a man who has ever courted me with such devotion to what might win my heart. "P" sends me the most wonderful songs that are guaranteed to melt the coldest heart. He sends me photos and graphics guaranteed to make me smile. The past two days he has sent me video emails that make me smile, and sometimes laugh out loud. He loves my smile and does his level best to keep it on my face, even if it means getting up and waltzing around the room while I watch, lol. He calls me beautiful and sweetheart.<br /><br />Last night he asked me where we were going. We were only going to help each other get on with our lives after the loss of our loved ones ... him to death and me to being abandoned. I told him that I didn't know, but I was going to hang on for dear life for the ride. Both of us are confused because we thought we were just going to be friends, but it FEELS like more than that. I think he's as blown away by this (whatever this is) as I am. What we have shared makes me feel like I'm on the edge of a cliff right now ... just a short step from falling.<br /><br />He went to a party tonight and just called me a few minutes ago to let me know he was thinking of me. Wow! "P" is totally blowing me (and those "walls" I have been rebuilding) away. I'm sitting here right now wondering if I'm dreaming, if this can be real.<br /><br />My girlfriend says he looks like a Texan, from his photo. I told her he's got a Texas attitude, because "P" has an innate honesty and forthrightness about him that is rare.<br /><br />I'm meeting him for the first time tomorrow. I don't understand why I'm NOT nervous. I was so nervous when I first met my former boyfriend (and I had known him for almost 3 years before our first face to face meeting), but there are no jitters there at all, only a quiet excitement.<br /><br />So tonight, I sit here shaking my head and wondering. Can this be real? How can this be happening to me so quickly? What the hell is happening to me? No, I am not saying that I'm in love, but I think that I'm only a step away from falling in love all over again. Could it be that my heart was lost and alone for so long, that, in its loneliness, it sought out a new heart to ease its pain?<br /><br />I have no answers and no clue.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-14707311622007593352007-10-07T01:28:00.000-05:002007-10-31T00:43:10.583-05:00Don't get me wrong.I just re-read my last post. It makes me sound like I'm cutting myself off from everyone. Nothing can be further from the truth. I do have friends that I have contact with ... today being one of those days filled with them. <br /><br />I spent the day with an elderly woman who doesn't drive. She used to volunteer at my last job. I acted as her chauffeur today and took her around to different stores. I do this on a regular basis (we went last weekend also). She's a sweet lady. I enjoy spending time with her. She treated me to lunch. She also gave me some vegetables out of her garden when I dropped her off and carried her groceries inside.<br /><br />When I got home, another friend stopped by to see how I was doing. He is a former neighbor. He calls or drops by from time to time to see how I'm doing and if I need anything. I have helped him out a time or two before, so he keeps in touch.<br /><br />Then tonight I got two calls from my friend "J". He is romancing a lady and calls for advice, lol. I know, you are probably thinking ... how ironic that someone who doesn't know how to keep love is giving advice.<br /><br />He has a date with "B" today. I gave "J" a link to a site in St. Louis that shows what events are happening this weekend and a suggestion on what I thought she might like to do from the list. That's where they are going today. I also talked to him to "calm him down". He really likes "B" and doesn't want to mess up. <br /><br />I received an email from him a bit ago. "J" said he was confused and had no idea what to do until he talked to me. He said he talked to "B" and she wanted to go to the festival that I recommended (I also gave him several other ideas). He also said that I'm "a good woman" ... which sent me off on my tangent.<br /><br />I have friends ... friends who care about me ... I just don't have love in my life ... someone to love and care for ... which is why I'm sitting here feeling sorry for myself.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-26537142953304655652007-10-07T00:55:00.000-05:002007-11-01T18:40:38.323-05:00Late Night RamblingsOk, I'll admit it. It's after 1:00 a.m. and I'm sitting here feeling down and sorry for myself.<br /><br />I'm also wondering what it is about me that causes the men in my life to fall out of love with me ... abandon me.<br /><br />My biological father was the first in a long line. He left my mother, brother and I. I'll never find out why. He died at some point. I found out about his death when I was going through chemo 10 years ago.<br /><br />My friends tell me that I'm a wonderful woman ... sweet, kind, fun, loving, giving. They say I deserve a man who will love me and appreciate me. That's all well and good for my friends to say. It seems that the men that I love, don't feel the same way ... witness the disappearance of my former boyfriend.<br /><br />What is it about me that causes the men in my life to abandon me? What am I doing wrong? What is wrong with me? I try to figure it out, but it is beyond my grasp.<br /><br />I'm now questioning the past 4 years. Did he ever love me? Did he box himself into such a tight corner that he could never find his way out and is that why he quit calling? Was it all a lie or did he love me at some point and then stop? And, if that last premise is true, why did he stop? What did I do wrong?<br /><br />Now, I wonder if I will ever be able to trust a man with what is left of my heart.<br /><br />I can feel my walls starting to re-build themselves. They crumbled to the ground when I gave my heart to my former boyfriend. Each day I can feel the walls growing higher and higher. At the rate the reconstruction is going, it will take a mountain climber to ever scale the walls to find the bruised and battered heart hidden behind the wall.<br /><br />I used to be such a trusting soul, but that is gone. I have somehow lost my ability to trust ... in myself and others. Like a wild animal, I am shying from close human contact. I wonder if I will ever heal and regain what I have lost.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-69674787669946319312007-10-02T21:20:00.000-05:002007-10-02T22:02:32.968-05:00Doctors!Yesterday I finally got the results of my Upper GI (it took them long enough to call me back). I was told that I had a "thickening" in the "bed of my stomach". The nurse told me that the doctor wanted to do yet another test ... an EGD Scope. I said no.<br /><br />Then she wanted me to at least have some blood work done ... according to her it would tell them if I had gastritis or not (I thought it was Crohn's or Colitis that they were trying to diagnose). I said I'd think about it.<br /><br />I did think about it. I called the doctor's office back again first thing this morning. I told the nurse that I wasn't having another test. I think I caught her off guard, since I was so insistent and had done my homework first. <br /><br />I also told her that all my symptoms point to Crohn's (fever, eye problems, pain on right side, arthritis) and not Colitis. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck ... guess what ... it's a duck!<br /> <br />The doctor's nurse finally agreed to talk to the doctor and call me back. It took her long enough, but she finally called me back around 5:00 this afternoon. She told me that the doctor had reviewed my records. She had recorded, after my colonoscopy, that I had Crohn's Disease. <br /> <br />I asked why the heck did they have me do the Upper GI when they already knew ... no answer to that one. I got sick from the Barium Sulfate for no good reason whatsoever. The nurse also said that I don't need the blood test or the EGD scope ... since they already HAVE a diagnosis.<br /> <br />I couldn't find anything on a "thickening bed" in the stomach online, so I questioned the nurse as to what it meant. I kept after her until she finally read what was written on the report. It seems that it means that either I have gastroenteritus OR it could be a reaction to medications ... guess which one I'm voting for.<br /> <br />Next I questioned the medication (Lialda). According to the medications' website, it is for Ulcerative Colitis (no mention of Crohn's). If anything, I've felt worse since I started taking it. I'm still not happy with her answer on THAT. She insisted that I continue until I see the doctor in two weeks. In the meantime, I'm to take a medication that may or may not help.<br /><br />I don't remember the last time that I was so livid (a rarity for me). The doctor already has a diagnosis, but is scheduling me for all sorts of tests. If I hadn't put my foot down, there is no telling how many tests they would have put me through. Grrrrrrrr. <br /> <br />Add to that, I've got to call twice a day to see if I have to report for Jury Duty this week. Although I guess that could be worse, I could have actually been called (and had to constantly excuse myself for the bathroom). <br /><br />If I didn't have IBD before, the past few weeks would insure that I would have it ... or an ulcer!Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-29474328123470756022007-09-30T12:46:00.000-05:002007-11-01T18:45:43.914-05:00Wishing Upon a StarThe past week has been a hard one. My health has not been the best due to the effects of the reaction I had to the upper GI and my illness. I haven't slept well all month either. The lack of sleep and health have put me in a very depressed state of mind. There are times when I feel like I'm going on adrenaline just to drag myself upright and put one foot in front of the other. I'm missing that constant smile of mine.<br /><br />Tomorrow is the birthday of my aunt, Gladys, and my best friend, Charlotte. Both of them died of cancer and both had profound influences on my life. My aunt died over 10 years ago and Charlotte died two years ago. I still miss them to this day.<br /><br />Combining all of the above, you find me in a reflective mood this past week. I've really taken a hard look at my life and where I want to go with it. I couldn't do a whole lot else since I wasn't feeling well. I spent a lot of time thinking on my couch, which is where I'm heading again as soon as I post this.<br /><br />As much as I loved my former boyfriend, I've come to realize in the past few weeks that I have to let go of the dream. It is possible that it was all a mirage anyway. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone ... like I am now. It was my friends who called to check on me when I was sick this past week. I haven't heard from him in over a month again and I can't sit here and wait for the phone to ring any longer. He has never been there for me when I needed him most, and he never will be. It's time for me to wake up to the truth.<br /><br />There is no anger at him in this decision, only pain and tears.<br /><br />My friend "J" told me earlier this week that I was like a figurine ... sitting on a shelf ... waiting to be noticed. I've mulled that one over all week. I started to wonder if it would be another 8 months before I heard from my former boyfriend again and if I was going to sit on that shelf waiting ... once again ... staring at the picture beside my bedside and my monitor and eating my heart out.<br /><br />Yesterday, a dear friend "P" sent me a song, <a href="http://solosong.net/wish.html">"When You Wish Upon a Star"</a>, from the Disney movie "Pinocchio". Right now that song and movie seem very appropriate. I no longer want to be that figurine (puppet). I want to be a real woman who has someone who loves and cares about her and how she is doing. I want to have a man in my life that I can love and pamper and give the gift of all the love I have in my heart. I want to have someone who makes me smile and laugh again ... instead of crying. Is it possible that I've found him?<br /><br />I've been wishing upon a star for years, perhaps it is time for me to make a new wish, so new dreams will come true. My old dream seems to have died due to neglect. I am also beginning to wonder how much my ill health has to do with this pain that I'm in. While I was dusting his pictures, I have become "dusty" on that shelf from being left alone so long. Like the poem I posted on June 23, <a href="http://nbdyhm.blogspot.com/2007/06/loneliness.html">loneliness gnaws at my soul</a> and a void has opened up inside me. I've put the pictures away, now it's time to move on.<br /><br />There has to be someone out there who will love and care about me whom I can love and care about also. Right now that dream I had and posted about is much on my mind. I'm in so much pain right now that I can't bear the thought that it will never go away. I just hoping and praying that <a href="http://nbdyhm.blogspot.com/2007/08/dream.html">"the dream"</a> doesn't come true. I'm hoping it was just a nightmare brought about by my tortured mind in its loneliness. I'm hoping my friend is right and the dream portrays the sunshine of happiness that is yet to come.<br /><br />Two of my friends, one my doctor and the other my former co-worker, urged me to sign up on an online dating site. I have followed their advice. It tears my heart out to do so, but I'm clear in my profile that I'm looking for a friend. I'll give it a couple of months and see how it goes. I promised them I would. I've already met two very nice men "J" and "P" ... I think will be great friends.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-56798014370239816962007-09-26T21:25:00.000-05:002007-10-31T00:39:54.856-05:00Bridge Over Troubled WaterDid you ever have a song that seems to carry significance at many different times in your life?<br /><br />I remember when I first heard Simon & Garfunkel's "Bridge Over Troubled Water" back in 1970. My childhood sweetheart (he gave me my first kiss when I was about 6 years old), had just broken up with me. He and I lived about 3 hours apart and neither of us could drive at the time. It was my first experience with rejection and a broken heart. I remember listening to the song over and over.<br /><br />Now, once again, this song soothes something in my soul. I wonder why that is. Is it because of that distant memory of how it soothed me back in my teens? Perhaps it is the words:<br /><center><br />When you’re weary, feeling small,<br />When tears are in your eyes, I will dry them all;<br />I’m on your side. When times get rough<br />And friends just can’t be found,<br />Like a bridge over troubled water<br />I will lay me down.<br />Like a bridge over troubled water<br />I will lay me down.<br /><br />When you’re down and out,<br />When you’re on the street,<br />When evening falls so hard<br />I will comfort you.<br />I’ll take your part.<br />When darkness comes<br />And pain is all around,<br />Like a bridge over troubled water <br />I will lay me down.<br />Like a bridge over troubled water<br />I will lay me down.<br /><br />Sail on silvergirl,<br />Sail on by.<br />Your time has come to shine.<br />All your dreams are on their way.<br />See how they shine<br />If you need a friend<br />I’m sailing right behind.<br /><br />Like a bridge over troubled water<br />I will ease your mind.<br />Like a bridge over troubled water<br />I will ease your mind.<br /></center><br /><center><object height="350" width="425"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/sbFEnoITiWE"><param name="wmode" value="transparent"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/sbFEnoITiWE" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="350"></embed></object></center>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-63162573525888952332007-09-26T01:29:00.000-05:002007-11-01T01:47:19.224-05:00Guidepaths to PeaceSomeone shared this with me this week. It really struck a chord in me. It is how I try to live my life, yet these days I wonder if I will ever again know true peace ... of mind, body and soul.<br /><br /><em>Be glad of life because it gives you the chance to work and to play and to look up at the stars; </em><br /><em>to be satisfied with your possessions</em><br /><em>but not content with yourself until you have made the best of them; </em><br /><em>to despise nothing in the world except falsehood and meanness, </em><br /><em>and to fear nothing except cowardice; </em><br /><em>to be governed by your admirations rather than by your disgusts;</em><br /><em>to covet nothing that is your neighbor’s </em><br /><em>except his kindness of heart and gentleness of manners; </em><br /><em>to think seldom of your enemies, often of your friends, and every day of Christ; </em><br /><em>and to spend as much time as you can with body and spirit in God’s out of doors </em><br /><em>-- these are little guidepaths to peace.</em><br /><br />~ Henry van Dyke<br /><br />I'm glad of my life and grateful for each day that I have survived the cancer that I had years ago.<br /><br />I'm happy with what I have materialistically. Sure, I'd like to have a flat panel monitor and a few other things, lol, but I will get them when the time is right because I don't really NEED them.<br /><br />I fear nothing ... well almost nothing. I don't like heights, lol, but that has never stopped me from doing what I want to do. I've gone to the top of a tower and climbed ladders. I won't let my fears control me.<br /><br />I've always had enough courage to do what needed to be done, when it needed to be done. There is enough adventure in my heart that I'm willing to take great risks ... risks that have brought me to where I am today (something I'll never regret).<br /><br />I don't really have any enemies, at least none that I know about. I hate no one ... hate takes too much energy that can be spent on something more enjoyable. I'm sure there are people who don't like me, but they don't really bother me. There are also a few online trolls that don't like me for one reason or another, but I ignore them ... they really have no bearing in my life whatsoever. I am just me and not everyone can like everyone.<br /><br />I do think of our Lord every day and pray frequently. I also try to spend a bit of each day outside. I feed my critters and water my plants and just enjoy a moment basking in the sun.<br /><br />Still, the peace my soul longs for seems just out of my reach ... and I know what it is missing.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-70670796391875997392007-09-26T01:27:00.000-05:002007-10-31T00:51:34.253-05:00Relationships<div align="center"><img height="320" src="http://groups.msn.com/isapi/fetch.dll?action=MyPhotos_GetPubPhoto&PhotoID=nGAAAAM0FRS6LQMvcQ7xxrcuRXlDPjcpi!4RgiysXrqOhDqsb*!fsOQAAAAAAAAAA" width="400" /> </div><div align="center">I ran across this tonight. </div><div align="center">I feel like I'm in that desert right now.</div>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-15987307337115703092007-09-24T23:58:00.000-05:002007-09-25T00:42:55.475-05:00Ever had an Upper GI?I would imagine that most people would find the experience no big deal. At most, some people might think it was mildly uncomfortable. My experience was somewhat different.<br /><br />I arrive on time for my appointment and didn't have to wait too long for them to take me back and have me put on a hospital gown. Then I was made to wait in an area with several other people ... men and women ... which was a bit uncomfortable, given what I was wearing ... or not wearing. I was then taken in for an initial x-ray.<br /><br />After that the real wait began. I must have been sitting there for a half hour to 45 minutes before I was taken in the room where they do the upper GI ... then another long wait for the doctor to come in.<br /><br />They make you drink 2 cups of a chalky substance called barium sulfate while they watch it travel down your body. The stuff is nasty tasting. I had a hard time getting it down without it wanting to come back up, but then I can't drink Pepto Bismol without it coming back up, so I didn't think much of it.<br /><br />The good news was that the stuff traveled through my system in record time. I was able to get out of there quickly after I finished drinking the stuff. In other words, it went straight through me. Now I'm starting to wonder if that is good news or cause for concern.<br /><br />The bad news is that I am one of the very small percent of people in this world who is allergic to barium sulfate. I guess I shouldn't be surprised, since I'm allergic to metal. I can't get a shot without running a fever or wear jewelry without breaking out in a rash.<br /><br />The nurse told me that I might suffer constipation from the barium sulfate. I should have been so lucky. I also should have known my body would react differently. By the time I got home, diarrhea had hit. This was quickly followed by my blood pressure going up. A splitting headache followed (probably due to the rise in my blood pressure). <br /><br />My sense of taste was gone too. I started drinking a diet coke when I got home, but thought it was flat. I then tried a diet creme soda, only to find it tasted flat too. <br /><br />Add to those sympthoms some almost crippling cramps that had me doubled over at times, and you get a very nasty afternoon. At one point I gave serious consideration to calling 911, but I took some asprin and slept for 3 hours instead.<br /><br />Needless to say, the next time a doctor suggests an upper GI, I will politely decline their suggestion.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-30684286499502108862007-09-23T22:40:00.000-05:002007-10-31T00:53:17.005-05:00Only a Woman's Heart<center><object width="425" height="350"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/6qkD9wAO1WU"></param><param name="wmode" value="transparent"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/6qkD9wAO1WU" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="350"></embed></object></center><br /><br />I love this song, "Only A Woman's Heart". Listening to it, I hear the pain that I have been feeling these past months as I try to move on with my life. I was listening to it yesterday.<br /><p></P>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-71613083315759667152007-09-23T22:11:00.000-05:002007-10-31T00:55:27.572-05:00I'm so happy for my friend.My friend "J" called a while ago and was bubbling over about his first date. It sounds like it went wonderfully, with only one hitch or two. They spent the whole day together at the zoo and eating out. It sounds like a perfect first date to me and she sounds like she is really nice.<br /><br />His date sounds like just what he needs, a woman who is free to care and touch. I hope that she is everything he needs. I hope that this one date grows into others and they can build a relationship with each date. "J" is a really nice guy that deserves to have someone to love and to love him. He's had enough pain in his life too, and he deserves some happiness.<br /><br />As for me, I did go to the store. I did go outside and feed the critters and watered my plants, but pain is my constant companion. My tears are always close to the surface. I feel so lost and alone.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-29080577501337505402007-09-23T12:15:00.001-05:002007-11-01T18:58:00.389-05:00It's been a hard weekend.I have shed a river of tears in the past few days. It's been 24 days now since I last talked to my former boyfriend. I've been listening to so much of the music that he and I shared and sobbing as each one pushed a dagger further and further into my heart. Even now, tears are right there on the surface of my eyes, waiting to spill over. Perhaps they are trying to wash the pain out of my heart so it can heal.<br /><br />I struggled last night with what I'm going to do with all the pain inside. Yesterday I decided it was time to just let go.<br /><br />During the 8 months we were apart, I listened to friends. They were worried about how lonely and sad that I was. One week before he called me again, I let one of my friends convince me to go out on a date. What started as a date turned into making a new friend. I told my date "J" that I was still in love with my former boyfriend and I made a friend that day. He understood how I felt. He was still in love with his ex-girlfriend, but is trying to move on with his life. He is even out on a date today and I'm cheering him on. He's a really nice guy and I hope he finds a new love to fill his life.<br /><br />When my former boyfriend called, I told him the truth that I had been out on one date, but it ended with me finding a friend and not a potential "boyfriend".<br /><br />I did come to one positive decision. My new friend and my old friends continue to worry about me, so I will try to ease their worry. It was their concern that has brought me to the realization that I can't sit here and wait for the phone to ring anymore. It is eating me up inside and making me ill. I have to let go and move on.<br /><br />I've got to start getting out, even though I hurt so much that pain has become a constant companion. I know it is going to take every ounce of my will-power to do this. Sitting here is only rewarding me with ill health. My insides are eating themselves up and my emotional pain is becoming physical. I can't go on like this. Even now my lunch is eating a hole in my insides and I feel nauseated. So, I'm going to go to the store and maybe, when I get back, I will go outside and watch the critters. I know it's not much, but it is a first step.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-19189391600979772952007-09-22T13:29:00.001-05:002007-09-22T13:29:17.504-05:00Can't Cry Hard Enough<object width="425" height="350"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/3YN-8C5z25Q"></param><param name="wmode" value="transparent"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/3YN-8C5z25Q" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="350"></embed></object>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-44949563535505302392007-09-22T13:05:00.000-05:002007-11-01T19:01:36.404-05:00Letting Go.After calling me a couple of times in the past 9 months, my former boyfriend has once again gone missing from my life. I've spent the past two days crying my eyes out and thinking back on the past 4 years.<br /><br />How do you let go of a dream that has been in your heart for years? Was the dream even real? There are so many things that make me wonder if he was more a figment of my imagination than the man I thought he was ... did I fall in love with a mirage ... did the man that I loved even exist? Still, how do you give up on your best friend?<br /><br />I've been asking these questions to myself the past two days ... and not finding the answer. I just know that I can't go on living like I have ... which isn't really living ... sitting and waiting for the phone to ring.Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-66530286574512488012007-09-16T10:33:00.000-05:002007-11-01T19:41:17.581-05:00I close my eyes ...The drought has ended. This morning I was going back through my "thought" file and came across a few notes that I had put down about the movie I watched last weekend, "<em>Bridges over Madison County</em>".<br /><br />I hesitated to watch the movie because it dealt with a woman who was unfaithful to her husband. I'm a one-man-woman and don't think anyone should cheat on another person, hence my hesitancy to watch the movie.<br /><br />I'm glad I overcame my reluctance and watched it. What I saw was a love story that touched my heart and brought back some memories, while giving me pause and making me think.<br /><br />Of course, when I think, my former boyfriend is never far from my mind. The story reminded me of what I thought was our love story in so many ways.<br /><br />I think this song from the movie, sums up how I felt about him:<br /><div align="center"><br /><em>It doesn't matter where you are, </em></div><div align="center"><em>because I can see how you fair you are.</em></div><div align="center"><em>I close my eyes and there you are. </em></div><div align="center"><em>Always ...</em><br /></div><br />When my former boyfriend and I first fell in love, I totally identified with Francesca when she said, "<em>I was acting like another woman, but I was more myself than I was before</em>."<br /><br />At first, I struggled with a love like I had never felt before. Here I was, an independent woman who had found someone that I needed. I was different, yet I felt like I had become the woman that I was meant to be. It was scary and exhilarating.<br /><br />When Francesca said, "<em>You never think a love like this will happen to you</em>", her words struck a chord deep inside of me. I never expected to find a love like that. My former boyfriend brought me more joy than I had ever felt before in my life. However, recently,he has brought me a despair that wrenches my heart every day. Just the memories of what I am missing easily bring tears to my eyes ... to use his words, "<em>my eyes leak</em>".<br /><br />I still struggle with the woman that I have become. I'm different, not like I used to be before I fell in love with him. I'm not sure I know this woman that I am now, but I know she is me and I wouldn't trade who I am now for anything.<br /><br />Yet another line from the movie, "<em>We are the choices we have made</em>", made me realize I would not have made a different choice for the same reason ... the joy he brought into my life and the chance to know that kind of love. Never before had I ever felt such a wonderful sensation as I felt when I came home in the circle of his arms. In his arms, I thought that I was in the one place in this world that I was meant to be. That sensation, and the joy and laughter he brought into my life, were the most precious gifts that I had ever received. I still would not trade those gifts for anything, despite the pain that followed.<br /><br />These days, I totally understand how Kincaid felt when he said that he embraced "<em>the mystery of being alone</em>." I'm so cut off from everyone, yet I have friends ... I go out with them and talk to them on the phone on a regular basis ... but none of them are as close to me as he was.<br /><br />He and I could share anything and everything and nothing. Before he and I met, I didn't know there was anyone out there with whom I could talk for hours at a time and never tire of talking about whatever crossed our minds. I'm more of a listener than a talker, yet he drew out of me words that usually just ramble around in my mind with no outlet. He and I fed each other a creativity of thought that is outside of anything I had ever experienced before. Just remembering where some of our conversations led still causes me to smile or laugh out loud.<br /><br />Which makes Kincaid's words, "<em>Don't throw us away</em>," all the more poignant. Those same words have been spoken in my mind and heart many times over the past months. The words once again echo in my mind.<br /><br />I wonder how he could throw something so precious as my love away. I also wonder what kept him from me ... fear ... a feeling that he doesn't deserve my love ... or is it something else? That's a question that only he can answer, while I spend my time learning the "<em>mystery of being alone</em>" without him and continue to "<em>close my eyes and there you are ... always</em>".Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-63245996219175274012007-09-15T23:43:00.000-05:002007-11-01T19:42:44.676-05:00Got Blank?<div align="justify">Do you ever have those times when your mind go completely blank and you can't think of a single thing worth posting on your blog? </div><div align="justify"><br />My mind seems to be suffering from this "blank" syndrome for the past week or so. I wonder how much of it is missing my former boyfriend ... again. Perhaps it is time for a new dream. Just when my hopes had risen to the point where I was happy again, he once again has gone missing. Between missing him and the ongoing problems with my health and the medication I'm taking, I've been depressed and my mind is in turmoil trying to decide where I go from here. It is also why I haven't thought of a single "fresh" thing to post.<br /><br />So, I've done what I usually do when that happens, I went to my "Musings" folder. Instead of finding inspiration for something new, I found this one, "Ode to a Blank Page, dated 2002. I'm sure you see why it seems appropriate to me right now, lol.<br /></div><div align="center"><br /><em>Ah, a blank page, so fresh and new.<br />Just waiting for me to pour my heart into.<br />What shall I write about ... the moon and stars,<br />or shall I just write of little men from mars?<br /><br />A blank page so full of promise, so clean.<br />What inner thoughts will I hope to glean?<br />Will it hold all of my hopes and dreams,<br />or shall I fill it full of light and sunbeams?<br /><br />Shall I pour out my anguished soul,<br />and hope that it will make me whole?<br />Will writing hold my loneliness at bay,<br />or will I be lonely again on another day?<br /><br />Shall I wax poetic of the beauty of nature<br />and is the sunrise or sunset the best feature?<br />Will I write about the laughing seagull’s cry<br />or of the whistling ducks flying by?<br /><br />Ah, page, once so bright and pristine,<br />I have filled you up; you’re no longer clean.<br />And what did I find to write about,<br />not a thing, without a doubt.</em></div>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-14778528208912640132007-09-10T23:54:00.000-05:002007-09-11T00:38:13.800-05:00Remembering 9/11/2001I will never forget that day. As I was dressing for work, I had the television on and stopped to watch in horror as the planes flew into the twin towers and they collapsed before my eyes.<br /><br />It still brings tears to my eyes and pain to my heart as I remember. I hope we never forget that day and that the horror never fades from our hearts and minds.<br /><br />The next day I wrote the following. Little did I know then the "witch hunt" that was to come or how so many would be so ill-treated by the American government that I was so proud of that day. I had no idea that history was about to repeat itself, nor that many of those responsible would still be free even six years in the future.<br /><br /><em>Yesterday our whole world changed. We learned that we were no longer safe here in America. We learned that evil knows no borders or boundaries. It is a lesson our parents and grandparents already knew, but we in the 50 and under age group had only heard about it in history books. Yet even our parents and grandparents could not have imagined the horror that touched our world yesterday. Pearl Harbor was an act of war and not an act of terrorism.</em><br /><em><br />I have cried many tears and my heart is heavy in my chest. One incident stands out in my mind, horrifies me and fills me with shame. It is a though, a feeling that I felt briefly yesterday and the terror is that it is in the hearts and minds of many Americans right now.<br /><br />On one news report we heard in the words of the witnesses the horror they felt at watching the planes plow into the World Trade Center. One of the voices I heard was that of someone with an Arabic accent. For one brief second, I felt anger that the person would dare to describe to me the horror of what they had seen. Then I was horrified with myself for even thinking that way.<br /><br />I have never been prejudice. I have always treated everyone the same and have friends of many races. We are all people. We all have hopes, dreams, and suffer pain. The color of someone’s skin or the place of his or her birth has no bearing on what is inside them. I believe there are more good people than bad people of every race. The Muslims and/or Arabic people are no different.<br /><br />Only a very small faction of the Muslim Religion is extremist. The Koran teaches that if you commit suicide you will go to Hell. No true Muslim would ever commit the autocracies that we witnessed yesterday. Yet already we are seeing Americans striking out at their fellow Americans and vandalism being perpetrated at Muslim Mosques. In Texas, a window was shot out at a Muslim Mosque. I fear this is only the beginning of the horrors we will hear in the coming weeks and months.<br /><br />The American people are so angry that they are searching for someone to strike out at and they are striking out at themselves. By committing these acts of violence against Muslim Americans, we are acting no better than the terrorists who bombed our great land. In fear and hatred, a small group of Americans are hurting innocent people. The worst thing is that the American people of Arabic descent are experiencing the same horror and pain as we all are, but now they must fear for their lives. It brings to mind the U.S. concentration camps that the U.S. sent our Japanese and German Americans to during World War II, a horrible black mark on our history that most don't like to think about.<br /><br />It’s time for us all to stop and take stock, to look within and without and realize that the enemy is not Muslims, but a band of terrorists. Our government is seeking them out and they will find them. Our government will decide how best to deal with them and we the American people will be right behind them, all of us of all races, colors, and religions.</em>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-15745776348010062312007-09-09T00:33:00.001-05:002007-09-09T00:33:27.704-05:00I See Your Face Before Me<a href="http://myspacetv.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=7913471">I See Your Face Before Me - Frank Sinatra</a><br><embed src="http://lads.myspace.com/videos/vplayer.swf" flashvars="m=7913471&v=2&type=video" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="430" height="346"></embed><br><a href="http://myspacetv.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.addToProfileConfirm&videoid=7913471&title=I See Your Face Before Me - Frank Sinatra">Add to My Profile</a> | <a href="http://myspacetv.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.home">More Videos</a>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-72476686128641331822007-09-08T22:56:00.000-05:002007-09-08T23:34:51.333-05:00I Quit<span style="color:#000000;">I've been a "slug" today. I did do a few "house chores", but I've mainly been watching TV and reading. I have spent the evening watching the movie "<em>Bridges over Madison County</em>." I'll probably write something about that later, when I've had a chance to get my mind in order and sort out the feelings that the movie set off inside me.<br /><br />Anyway, I wrote this back in February of 2001. It was at a time when things just seemed like too much for me at the time. Somehow after watching the movie, this particular "musing" of mine seemed appropriate. If you have ever seen the movie, I'm sure you will understand why.</span><br /><br /><em>Sometimes you want to shout, "I quit". You know you won't, but it would feel good to shout it. "I quit"; even just typing the words gives a sense of relief. There are times in life when things just get to be too much. You need an outlet for the stress and for some reason those two words are just so seductive. It would be so easy to just throw up your hands and quit. Yet, we don’t.</em><br /><em><br />Why, when we have been upset, let down, or stressed, do we keep coming back? Is there something lacking in us or something special in us, that keeps us keeping on when we have had more than enough? Do we have a penchant for pain or are we persistent? Is it a character flaw or strength?</em><br /><em><br />If you are expecting an answer, you wont find it here, lol. I still haven’t figured it out. Today was just one of those days when I wanted to do it. I really wanted to say, “I quit." It was one of those days when I had reached the end of my rope and just couldn’t take any more. The straw had finally broken this camel’s back.<br /><br />So I’m doing what I usually do, I’m hiding out. Like a turtle, I’m pulling my head back into my shell for a bit. I’ll stick my nose out in a bit when I have refreshed myself to see if the coast is clear. Then I’ll slowly and carefully come out of my shell and move forward once again. But for now, I’m safely inside my shell once again.<br /><br />So, tomorrow night, I’ll take a deep breath and poke my nose out of my shell, carefully look around and crawl out. I might stretch a bit and do a recon mission to see if the coast is clear, before heading back into the fray. Hopefully I'll be refreshed and strengthened to the point where I wont be tempted to throw out those two little words, "I quit."</em>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821090330623313523.post-43002501108571114452007-09-07T21:00:00.000-05:002007-09-07T22:00:35.908-05:00The Nurse Forgot to Warn MeI could not get out of the clinic fast enough yesterday. They were almost 45 minutes late performing the colonoscopy, but I was still out of recovery and out the door of the clinic in record time. While the nurse had his back turned (he had left to get me some cookies and a diet coke), I got dressed. His look of astonishment when he came back in the recovery room was well worth it, lol. My friend, who knows me so well, just chuckled and told him I was a "tough old bird".<br /><br />The nurse told me I could go if I ate the cookies and then was able to stand. He also told me that I wasn't to go to work or drive for 12 hours. When I asked about any dietary restrictions, there were none. However, he forgot to warn me about cooking.<br /><br />My friend was kind enough to stop on the way home yesterday and pick me up a sandwich. She knew I was starving after going so long without food. A sub sounded like a good way to end my fast and I cut it in half. I figured that a little would be better than a lot, to give my insides a bit of time to adjust to being fed again. I finished off the second half of the sub for an early lunch today.<br /><br />So, this afternoon, I went rummaging in my refrigerator and pantry for something to eat. I had nothing cooked (didn't want to tempt myself during the time when I was fasting) and I haven't been to the store this week. My choices were shells & cheese or spaghetti, since those seemed the two easiest to make. I chose the spaghetti (my first mistake).<br /><br />I blew out the candle I had burning on the stove and put it on one of the burners (my second mistake and not one that I normally make in the first place).<br /><br />I started the spaghetti sauce warming up and then put water in the pan for the spaghetti. I turned on the burner (my third mistake). It was the wrong burner.<br /><br />Yep, you guessed it, I turned on the burner under the candle.<br /><br />I was lucky. For once I didn't make the mistake of leaving the kitchen to go see what was on TV while I waited for the water to boil. Instead, when the paper on the candle caught fire, I was right there to stare at the fire in horror and then panic. Since I've never had a fire in my kitchen before, it took my brain a second to kick in and realize what I was seeing, and a few more seconds to remember what you are supposed to do to put it out.<br /><br />My first thought was to smother the fire ... I got a big pot and put it on top ... it didn't fit over the candle. I stood there stupidly for a second and thought of the fire extinguisher outside and was just about to go get it when I remembered baking soda, which put the fire out immediately (it really wasn't that big of a fire). One thing I will say about the baking soda, it also came in handy when I was ready to clean up the stove and walls.<br /><br />After all that, the spaghetti turned out to be my biggest mistake (like I said, the fire wasn't really that big). It definitely did not sit well on my delicate system. I should have fixed the shells & cheese, lol, at least then I would only have used one burner and my insides would be feeling a lot better right now.<br /><br /><br /><center><IMG height=200 src="http://groups.msn.com/isapi/fetch.dll?action=MyPhotos_GetPubPhoto&PhotoID=nFAAMG80E3yJojgXVCgtfEVvc1xzS8HY1MHtM4x*aTdMTVRJvVNxWNw" width=200></center>Nobodyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15749324740119798877noreply@blogger.com1